Michigan teen's family upset after priest lectures on suicide being a sin — at their son's funeral

Michigan teen's family upset after priest lectures on suicide being a sin — at their son's funeral
Posted at 11:46 AM, Dec 15, 2018
and last updated 2018-12-15 11:46:00-05

TEMPERANCE, Mich. — A high school football coach has lost his job and now a mom and dad are calling for a priest to be fired after events at their son’s funeral.

Eighteen-year-old Maison Hullibarger died on December 4. His parents say they knew him to be a young man with dreams and potential.

“He was at the University of Toledo. He was a freshman, studying criminal justice. All A's,” said Linda Hullibarger, Maison’s mom.

It is hard for his parents to talk about even the good times: How Maison loved his family, enjoyed eating the home cooked meals his mom made, camping and football.

“He was strong. He was confident. He enjoyed life,” said Jeff Hullibarger, Maison’s dad .

Everyone who knew and loved Maison is trying to come to terms with why he took his own life December 4.

His parents say when they met with Rev. Don LaCuesta at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Catholic Church in Temperance, Michigan to plan the funeral, the reverend asked what they wanted him to speak about. They told him.

Then, when he began to speak during the funeral, they say he gave what they describe as a lecture on why suicide is a sin that can condemn you as you don’t have time alive to repent for taking a life.

“He called our son a sinner in front of hundreds of people and judged him when he didn’t even know him,” Linda Hullibarger said. “Jeff went up to the pulpit and asked him to stop. Twice.”

“I didn’t make a scene. I did it respectfully,” Jeff Hullibarger said.

“He didn’t stop. He didn’t miss a beat,”  said Linda Hullibarger.

The Archdiocese of Detroit tells WXYZ it understands this family’s concerns.

It released a statement that said:

We share the family’s grief at such a profound loss. Our hope is always to bring comfort into situations of great pain, through funeral services centered on the love and healing power of Christ.

Unfortunately, that did not happen in this case. We understand that an unbearable situation was made even more difficult, and we are sorry. After some reflection, the presider agrees that the family was not served as they should have been served. For the foreseeable future, he will not be preaching at funerals and he will have his other homilies reviewed by a priest mentor. In addition, he has agreed to pursue the assistance he needs in order to become a more effective minister in these difficult situations.

We have been in contact with the family since learning of this situation, and we will continue to offer our support going forward.

Their son’s former football coach also came under fire for events at the funeral.

Bedford High School’s Jeff Wood was asked by a family member to leave the funeral on Saturday. Relatives say Wood had been “unkind” in the past to Maison.

Wood responded with a post on Facebook criticizing anyone blaming him for the young man’s death.

Bedford High School released a statement saying in part he is “no longer affiliated in any way with the Bedford football program. The District holds all of its staff to the highest standards of professionalism, as personal and professional integrity is the core of our service to our community. The District recently received allegations that those standards may not have been met by the coach. Therefore, we are in the process of thoroughly investigating those allegations.”

WXYZ reached out to Wood for comment, but have not received a response.

The Hullibarger family says they do not blame Wood for their son’s death. They simply did not want him at the funeral.

They are more upset about what happened with the priest.

“I don’t want to see him do that to anybody else, what he did to us,” Jeff Hullibarger said of the priest.

“If you can’t count on a priest to have compassion in such a situation, who can you count on?” asked Linda Hullibarger. “He doesn’t have the right to be a priest anymore.”

If you are struggling and contemplating suicide, there is help. Please reach out for support.

You can always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK. Additional resources can be found here